Now what? Let me rant......HAHAHA

Hmm .. not exactly a rant lah I just think of it as an interesting issue happening in the society which I found disturbing at the same time, hence this entry. 

Take a loot at the illustration below:

A, who owns a cake shop is your friend. This fellow is just an acquaintance, a very nice person but not someone you know very well or personally. Maybe you only met him once or twice in a concert or you relative's wedding party. To make it simple, you only know him and what he does but you guys have quite good relationship in spite of the fact that you've never purchased any of his cakes.

Then, you have B who's another friend of yours. You don't really know her either, but she's a good friend just like A. She tells you that she's going to hold a party for her niece and she needs 300 cupcakes for desserts. She's not asking you to find someone that can supply 300 cupcakes nor is she asking you to recommend someone who bakes good cakes with affordable price. Anyway, since you know A runs a bakery, you just kind of spontaneously tell her about A, you give her his number and suggest her to order them from A. And she did.

Now, do you think you should be paid? Do you think you deserve some bucks from A for having introduced him to B who ordered 300 cupcakes? Does A really have to give you something in return? as gratitude?

ABSOLUTELY NO! WTF.

You told A about B for nothing other than wanting to help him selling more cakes so that he can gain more profit. A might or might not give you something as gratitude but it's all up to him. If he pays you it's good, if not it's COMPLETELY fine. Even you can choose to accept or refuse it. Like man, you only give him a customer and you wanna get paid for that? =_= If you want to gain benefit from A, then go make an agreement with him that you'll send customers monthly and promise to sell a thousand cakes per month. SMH. Imagine if you're helping an organization to collect donation for those in needs, would you expect them to pay you?
But it would be different if what A sold was a house, building, land, or car (and many things out there I have no idea about), then he had to pay (give you some commission) you for directing him and B, no matter how many units she bought. (That's just how it works here in my country, possibly since those are not things people buy frequently, they cost a lot and last for a long period of time? Does it apply in the place where you live?)

Then, you might ask, what do you get in return? If A was generous enough, he would probably give you discount for cake purchasing later in the future. Who knows if you had your own company you could get references from A? I'm sure he won't forget that you've done him a favor. Otherwise, there's totally nothing to grumble about. I'm not teaching you to be religious or stay positive, but God knows you're a good person, He will give even more that you could ever ask for. Trust me, you reap what you sow. There's no need to literally ask for it.
                                           
I've seen this happening quite many times and it's really annoying when you have somebody asking you to 'pay' them for the act of kindness they've done. In my case, they even sprinkled some sarcastic words I found very offensive to send me signals that they gotta get few bucks. I mean, I really appreciate his kindness and won't forget it just because he asked me to pay but that made me question myself, whether this person was a trustworthy, loyal, or nice one. Will he be there when I need help and I can't pay? Hmmmmmmm.. I've also experienced that situation where I was the one sending customers to my friends but I never expected them to notice it, let alone to get money from it. I'll be happy when I could help them to promote their business. It's not like I've done a heroic act other than sending few people buying their products, duh. Lol

Lastly, this isn't only about paying and being paid. They can pay you and won't mind about it but you lose 1 quality in yourself, that is when you turn kindness into business. My point is, when you help someone, you do it purely because you DO want to lend a helping hand and you're willing to do it. One day you're gonna need somebody's help too.